It’s advisable to stop using social media during your separation. If, however, you’d rather stay virtually social, here are some tips. These will help you as you navigate your separation or divorce and the world of social media.
Five Tips for Using Social Media During a Divorce
Before we discuss how to best use social media sites during a separation or divorce it’s important to note that everything you do on social media can be used against you. That’s right, every post, every chat, no matter how private you make it is, by law, discoverable. So use the following tips knowing that, even if you think your online presence is private, nothing online is really private.
- Cut ties. Defriend, unfollow, or otherwise cut ties with your ex. Consider doing the same with common friends and his family members.
- Watch what you post. You are going through a difficult, trying time. Sharing all you’re going through can be tempting; resist this urge. Before you post anything, think: “How would this look to a judge?”
- Forgo online dating. Now is not the time to jump back into the dating pool—especially not online. Do not flirt through social media or chat messages. Do not sign up for dating sites. This can be deemed inappropriate and affect the outcome of your divorce.
- Change your privacy settings. While legally everything you do on social media can be used in court, changing your privacy settings is still a good idea. This ensures that the whole world (including any nosy relatives and friends of your ex) can’t easily see what you post.
- Keep your conversations offline. Let your friends and family know that you can’t discuss your separation online. Ask them to call you or talk to you in person, not to start a chat or post on your social media accounts.
No Matter What, Keep it Civil
The satisfaction of “sticking it” to your ex over social media is generally short-lived. I advise you to do your best to leave your separation off Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and if you do feel the need to share, keep it simple and civil. Nobody wins in a public online fight.
As a family lawyer who advocates for mutually beneficial collaborative separations and divorce, my goal is to keep every divorce as open, kind, and civil as possible. Everybody wins when, as the divorce proceedings draw to a close, both parties feel good about how things turned out. If you’d like to hear more about how this is possible, even for couples who are locked in battle, call (08) 9214 3887 or fill out the contact form on this page. I’d love to hear from you.