Parents separating isn’t the main problem for kids – how you separate is.
When a couple separate they end their life partnership. If the couple has children they then begin their post separation parenting partnership.
When children are involved in a separation the relationship does not end completely.
There are birthdays, 18 and 21, engagements, weddings, football grand finals, education and sporting awards presentations, and a host of other special events that can come up. Usually the children want both their parents to attend – if the parents can communicate on a reasonable level and are focused on the child and not themselves.
I’m not a psychologist but you don’t need to be Freud to know that a ‘good’ separation has less chance of causing mental health issues for children.
What can you do to make sure that your kids are not damaged by your separation?
First, it is important to understand that research into the affect of separation on children shows that children can survive separation if their parents maintain a co-parenting relationship.
There are many options available to couples to settle their financial and parenting issues after a separation, but the only one that provides the emotional and psychological support parents need to promote the ongoing co-parenting relationship is Interdisciplinary Collaborative Practice (ICP).
For more information on ICP and how you and your family can benefit from having a Collaborative team assist you with your separation go to http://www.waynedawkinslaw.com.au/collaborative-divorce/